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Dear Dr. Elia,

This past weekend I attended a three day workshop that brought together
a microcosm of our societies current political and moral views. Out of
the 31 attendees, myself and two other women were the only LDS. The
other 28 were resentful, angry gay, atheist and liberals, with a few
quiet Christians mixed in. Needless to say, we Mormons received the
brunt of the intense hatred, persecution and outright mean spirit from
the majority of the group. The F word and taking the Lord’s name in vain
was used profusely. If the value of the workshops didn’t far outweigh
the negative aspects, I would stop going. This past time was
particularly toxic to my sensitive emotional system.

In the past, after attending these training workshops, I had a great LDS
friend to talk too. He was calm, kind, and understanding–he always
soothed my nerves–like a ship weighted down with crusty barnacles after
a long voyage at sea, talking with him felt like sailing through cool,
fresh waters that dissolved away the harsh world. However, I’m unable to
talk to this friend, and the void feels more than I can bear. I am close
to the Savior, and believe me, He has heard from more more than usual.

My question is, since I feel particularly weighted down with the
harshness of a crusty world, where can I turn, or how can I find mortal
comfort? How can I heal my heart that misses the precious conversations
with my kindred friend? Today, my void feels especially vast …

Thank you for listening,

Lea

Lea


Dear Lea,

There are two different issues to address in your question. The first
one has to do with being in the world but not of the world. It sounds
like your experience at the seminar was truly awful and all because you
are LDS.

My wife and I got married in the Los Angeles Temple and we happened to
be there last week for Thanksgiving. We decided to drive past the Temple
and to our great disappointment when we got there, we witnessed people
holding signs that were VERY disrespectful towards our faith and the
House of the Lord! It has come to this in our society, that when we
disagree with someone’s beliefs, we feel like we must put each other
down in the most vilest of ways. I’m so sorry that you had to experience
that first hand. It might be a sign of things to come…

Standing up for what’s right has never been popular. If you look at
history, most great leaders were reviled, persecuted or even killed. The
time has come for all of us to be courageous and do, say and act for
what is right even in the face of great opposition.

As to your second question, it’s great that you had that experience. It
might be better to answer your predicament with the following poem from
Corrie Ten Boom.

Every Experience
God gives us,
Every person
He puts in our life,
is the perfect
preparation for
the future that only
He can see.

Believe that He knows what’s best for you and there will be others in
your path to provide shelter from the storms of life. In my own life
there have been numerous people that have helped along the way and more
to come, I am sure of it, as only He will provide.

God bless and stay strong,

Elia Gourgouris Ph.D.
303-523-6396
www.LDSCoaching.com