I have a large Mormon family. I come from a long line of large mormon families. I am a very good wife and mom. This past weekend we celebrated our third returned missionaries temple wedding and reception. ALL of my family came to join in on the joyful occasion. For the most part everything was wonderful, except inside myself I could feel the pressure building as the stressful, long days wore on. It seemed everyone needed something from me. By yesterday, after we all had attended Church, I was barely holding on to my nerves. Then, two of my daughter-in-laws burst my composure with a very complex issue at the lunch table. I blew off like a tea kettle! I really hurt their feelings and feel awful. What should I do to repair the damage and restore the love and trust we once shared?
First of all, congratulations on the wonderful achievements of your family! You truly have joy in your posterity…
It seems like the stress and pressures of this wonderful event, however, took their toll on you emotionally. You got overwhelmed and had a difficult time resolving your daughters’-in-law issue. It’s perfectly understandable and I’m sure if forgiveness is sought by you, then forgiveness will be extended by them…I say, the quicker the better and in person, if at all possible.
The more important issue to address however, is what can you do to find more balance and peace in your life? Especially during stressful times, how can you learn to take care of yourself, so this unfortunate situation does not repeat itself? You might want to take a little survey that will give you quite a few insights into this…If you go to www.TheHappinessCenter.com and take the Life Satisfaction Survey, you’ll discover great strengths but also a few areas that might need some attention in your life. As you take care of those specific areas, life will become a little more balanced.
Let me know if you have any questions…
Elia Gourgouris Ph.D.