Dear Dr. Elia,
I confronted my 53 year old daughter for interrupting me at a dinner I had for her and her family. She is a constant interrupter, she parrots me and answers the questions I address to others. When confronted it always becomes about me and that she did not interrupt. I feel that I do not want a relationship with someone who is always blaming me. I feel guilty and think I should be a good mom and be there weather I want to or not.
Given that your daughter is 53 years old, I would assume that you must be in your 70’s. You have lived a long life and endured many things, just by being part of this mortal existence. You have raised your family and it is time to “have joy in your posterity!” Having a sense of humor and while sharing your feelings should go a long way towards resolving this issue.
There’s no need for confrontation…Take her hands in yours, look her in the eyes and open up your heart. This is NOT a deal breaker for your relationship. Remember that “blessed are the peacemakers!’ If you come with the right spirit in your heart it should all work out!
Elia Gourgouris Ph.D.